Press Release: Celebration of Motherhood:  Concepts Shared by Mothers May 1997

Long after the Mother's Day flowers wilt, mothers should continue their celebration of motherhood throughout the year, says the national non-profit organization, Mothers At Home.  The following concepts are shared by thousands of real mothers from all walks of life:

1.  Motherhood is the hardest job you'll ever love.  It is important to find a balance in your life, not because motherhood asks so little but because it demands so much.  To succeed, you must master and use a myriad of skills, often simultaneously.  It's tough; the praise is minimal, but the rewards abound.

2.  All mothers need networks.  New mothers are often surprised at how unprepared and isolated they feel.  Even if you view yourself as self-sufficient and confident, it is surprising to discover how much you need support.  If you can't find a support group, start one.

3.  Mothers are the real experts. Despite the booming market of books, videos, and other educational media for parents, recognize the validity of your instincts and trust your own decisions.  Consult with others, but listen to your own judgment.

4.  Real mothers don't define themselves through housework. Your priority during the active years of motherhood are  nurturing and enjoying your children, while finding ways to develop yourself.  The housekeeping will always be there.

5.  Communities need mothers.  Having a child can change an idealist into an activist.  Use the intensity of your concerns to create needed changes.  Talk to retailers, get involved with your library, know your city or county council and attend hearings.  Use your presence, your voice, your writing to be an advocate for your child's future.

Attn Media:  Our wish for Mother's Day:  No more "mommy wars" stories, no more breathless articles about the "changing American family," no more references to June Cleaver and Murphy Brown.  Instead, we'd like to read about real mothers doing real things in their communities -- women who have laundry stacked up, but are reading to their kids, volunteering, and following their interests.